Contentment and Satisfaction

Contentment & Satisfaction




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 couple of months back I was consumed with the disease of envy. I used to be jealous of my own friends, their pay packages, their standards of living, their cars, their families... just about everything. What made this problem worse was the absurdness of this jealousy. You see, the things that I was envious of were not the things that I actually required. Instead, those things, if granted to me would complicate my life. For instance, I used to be jealous of my friends having a car. But I don’t require a car for my commute. It would simply stagnate in the parking lot and add to my woes. I was jealous of my friends having two and three children while I had only one. But given my resources, I can focus on the proper upbringing of only one child. In short, whatever I had been given was tailor-made for me. I then made a summary of all the favours I have been granted by God and the list put me to shame. I had no reason- actually no right- to feel deprived. I was just being ungrateful.

I then came across a beautiful Hadith narrated by Hazrat Ali (God be pleased with him) which says that the Prophet Muhammad said, “He who is satisfied with a little provision (rizq) from God, God would be satisfied with a little of his deeds.” [Baihaqi]. SubhanAllah! What else could a person want?
This Hadith has been enlisted in the chapter dealing with ‘Sound heart’ (Qalbe saleem) in Kalaame Naboowat, which we know from the 88th and 89th ayaat of Surah asShu’ara is one of the things that make us eligible for Paradise.
“The Day when there will not benefit [anyone] wealth or children

But only one who comes to Allah with a sound heart.”

This is because only a person with a sound heart can ever be content at whatever God has given him. A corollary would thus be: A person who is content with whatever God has given him would develop a sound heart!

In another Hadith by Ibn Majah, Abu Hurairah (God be pleased with him) narrates that the Prophet told him, “Be content with whatever God has given you, you would then be the most grateful of men”.

These are thus the benefits of contentment:
1.     God being pleased with us even if our register of deeds is not very attractive.
2.     Developing a sound heart.
3.     Being counted amongst the most grateful of men.

But is reaching this level of contentment so easy? Absolutely not!
Anas bin Malik (God be pleased with him) quotes the Prophet as saying, “If the son of Adam had a valley full of gold, he would want to have two valleys. Nothing fills his mouth but the dust of the grave.” [Bukhari and Muslim]

And do we not witness this all around us? A person who is destitute only wishes for two square meals a day. But once this need of his stands fulfilled, he desires that he be given more. A debtor has only one thing on his mind- that if given some money he would repay his loans. But once his loan is repaid, he wishes that he be granted some more money to buy household appliances, then some more money to purchase his own house, then some more money for a car and then some more money to expand his business and then some more money to... this cascade never ceases till he reaches his grave.

And if we think over it, having a lot of money is not such a good thing after all. Why?

1.     Abu Hurairah (God be pleased with him) narrates in a Hadith recorded by Imam Tirmizi that a poor man would enter Paradise five hundred years before a rich man. This is probably because the latter would be held back to account for his money.

2.     The Qur’an has been unequivocal in stressing the point that the riches of this world and your children are merely a trial. This does not come more in-the-face that in the 15th ayat of Surah atTaghabun, where it has been bluntly said that “Your wealth and your children are but a trial”. In the opening passage of Surah alKahf, God says, “Indeed, We have made that which is on the earth adornment for it that We may test them (as to) which of them is best in deed.” If wealth and children are nothing more than a trial, is not a lesser trial any day better than a grater one? The Prophet was always apprehensive of the Ummah getting too wealthy. He had said that every Ummah has a fitnah and the fitnah of my Ummah would be wealth. He had also said that he does not fear poverty in our case as much as he fears wealth. The example of Imam Ahmad bin Hanbal when he was offered a bag full of gold to bribe him into accepting the post of Chief Justice is an eye opener. He submitted before God that the previous trial (of getting flogged) was easier for him than this trial of getting bribed with money and supplicated God to turn it away from him.

 

3.     Wealth also leads to punishments as we see in the case of Qaroon in Surah alQasas. The people who were amazed and covetous of his wealth when they used to see him roam about flaunting them on the streets were quick to realize their folly when they saw him getting afflicted with divine punishment.

 

4.     Wealth makes a man arrogant and keeps him away from accepting the truth. In almost all the stories of prophets mentioned in the Qur’an, we note that it was always the affluent class that rejected the prophets. They were too proud of their richness in wealth and children. ‘Why has he not been given gardens and gold and palaces?’ they would ask. Leave alone a prophet, they could not even accept Saul as their king for the sole reason that he was not blessed with wealth. [Surah alBaqarah ayat 247]


5.     One more problem with being rich is that it makes man transgress his limits. It has been said in Surah alAlaq that “Man transgresses because he sees himself ghani (self-sufficient).” Please note here that he is not actually self-sufficient, no one is. He only considers himself to be so. We are all dependent on God for the most basic of our needs. Abu Hurairah narrates that the Prophet explained, “Ghani is not one who has the treasures of the world. Instead, ghani is one who is satisfied at heart.” [Bukhari]


6.     A wealthy person does not consider himself in need of God anymore. He becomes negligent of his prayers and makes his wealth his god. God cautions us against this when He says, “O you who have believed, let not your wealth and your children divert you from remembrance of Allah. And whoever does that - then those are the losers.” [Surah alMunafiqoon ayat 9].

Elsewhere, He praises those “men whom neither commerce nor sale distracts from the remembrance of Allah and performance of prayer and giving of zakah”. [Surah anNoor ayat 37]

 

7.     The spine-chilling incident of Tha’labah bin Hatim alAnsari alluded to in the 75th to 78th ayaat of Surah atTaubah tells us that getting wealthy can even make a man a hypocrite. This person approached the Prophet and asked him to pray to God to grant him wealth. The Prophet dissuaded him from asking for such things and explained to him that he himself does not prefer being wealthy. But upon his persistence, the Prophet finally prayed for him and the effect of the prayer showed up in an unprecedented increase in his herd of goats. This herd kept growing and growing, forcing him to take them beyond the outskirts of Madinah for grazing. Engrossed in his flock, he began to show up for congregational prayers only during Zuhr and Asar, then only for Juma’a and then began neglecting even the Juma’a congregation. Upon the completion of a year, when the Prophet sent his representatives to him to collect his zakat, he behaved arrogantly with them and called it an unreasonable tax. Thereupon, these ayaat of the Qur’an were revealed wherein he was condemned as a certified hypocrite, overriding the norm that the names of hypocrites were not revealed in public. The Prophet refused to accept his zakat telling him that we do not accept zakat from hypocrites. After the Prophet, Caliphs Abu Bakr, Umar and Usman (God be pleased with them) also refused to accept his zakat and this wretched man died a hypocrite!

[Ma’ariful Qur’an: Ibn Jarir, Ibn Abi Hatim, Ibn Marduwayh, alTabarani and alBaihaqi on the authority of a narration from Sayyidna Abu Umamah Bahili]

 

Solutions:

Having understood these horrifying hazards of being wealthy, we should now ponder over the means by which we can save ourselves from falling in this trap. The key is to be judicious in our approach towards wealth. Money is not evil per se; but getting engrossed in it and being neglectful of the rights of God and of fellow human beings certainly is. This is what we can do:

 

1.     We should not cast envious and covetous eyes on others. God advises us: “And do not wish for that by which Allah has made some of you exceed others. For men is a share of what they have earned, and for women is a share of what they have earned. And ask Allah of his bounty. Indeed Allah is ever, of all things, Knowing.” [Surah anNisa’ ayat 32]

2.     We ought to realize that the riches of this world are far too short lived and inferior as compared to the riches of the hereafter. So a person should concentrate more on earning for his afterlife than the present one. This has been beautifully elucidated in Surha Aala, where God says, “But you prefer the worldly life, while the Hereafter is better and more enduring”.

 

3.     The lives of the Prophet and his companions are a living example for each of us to emulate. Lady Aishah (God be pleased with her) says that there used to pass three consecutive months with there being nothing in our house except two black things- dates and water. Even after the victory at Khaibar, the Prophet was least interested in opting for luxuries. He used to compare himself with a traveller who rests for some time under a tree and then continues with his journey [Ahmad, Tirmizi, Ibn Majah].


Caliph Syedna Abu Bakr Siddiq had had his salary deducted when his wife saved enough money to prepare a bowl of pudding for him. He contended that this was excess money, over and above his needs. Caliph Syedna Umar used to wear coarse, humble clothes and eat simple food despite being the ruler over all of Persia, Arabia and a large part of Byzantium. Caliph Syedna Ali also shared this lifestyle. Syedna Usman used to be cautious of not overspending even on the oil in his lamp fearing divine accountability. The governor of the wealthy province of Syria, Abu Ubaidah bin Jarrah used to live on the outskirts of Damascus in a shabby hut and ate stale bread dipped in water. Abu Zarr Ghaffari was so strict in his austerity that he believed food being saved for the evening was an act against tawakkul. Ibn Sa’ad writes in alTabqaat alKubra that Lady Aishah used to spend tens of thousands of dirham in a single day in charity despite the fact that her clothes used to be riddled with patches and there used to be nothing in the house to even break the fast. May God be pleased with them all. Are these narrations only meant to make us emotional and overawe us, or are they meant to make us reconsider our lifestyles and priorities and reform our lives accordingly? What exactly was it that these pious elders had understood and we are unable to understand?

 

4.     We need to contemplate over the reality of wealth. Abu Hurairah narrates from the Prophet that “A servant says, ‘My wealth. my wealth’, but out of his wealth only three things are his: whatever he eats and makes use of or by means of which he dresses himself and it wears out or he gives as charity, and this is what he stored for himself (as a reward for the Hereafter), and what is beyond this (it is of no use to you) because you are to depart and leave it for other people.” [Muslim]

This Hadith tells us that having excess wealth beyond our basic needs saved as bank deposits and investments is not going to be of any use to us. We should be prudent enough not to hanker after it.

 

5.     We should have complete faith in God. He explains this in that 60th ayat of Surah alAnkaboot, “And how many a creature carries not its (own) provision. Allah provides for it and for you. And He is the Hearing, the Knowing.” He has taken upon Himself to provide for us and it is He alone who knows what is best for us, a realization of which would make all our financial insecurities vanish into thin air.

 

If we sincerely follow these steps and be content at whatever God has given us, we would definitely be at peace with ourselves, and tomorrow, we would be address thus:

 

“O you soul in complete rest and satisfaction, return to your Lord, well-pleased and pleasing (to Him); and enter among My (righteous) servants and enter My Paradise.”

[Surah alFajr]

 

-Dr. Parvez Mandviwala

 

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